So I saw that Subaru commercial where the dads talking to his daughter, who -mind you- is sitting in the car with him talking to her from outside of the passenger window. As he’€™s talking he is the center of view, like from that of a nervous mother peering from over his shoulder, or from that of the teen as she looks up at him as he’s talking to her. He’€™s being the lamest dad ever, giving her all kinds of directions, like what to do in a case of emergency, and to call him if anything blah blah blah. A Pain in the ass . Until you finally get to see his daughter, from his point of view, sitting there in the car. Keys dangling in the ignition, windows down, she sits there in the drivers seat, in a pamper, sucking her thumb like she did when she still wet the bed. That was before she used to come home from school adorning her latest creations of artwork on her clothing. No, more innocent, back when she used to crawl into bed next to her mom, asking for milkie, sucking her thumb.
That’s when I noticed the TV screen had changed, with the commercial coming to an end with the view moving back to the dad, then to the daughter again, only this time more accurately representing the legal driving age.
That’s when I came to a profound realization. I became aware that even though they may make me tired, they may piss me off to the point of screaming, or to exhaustion, the three little pimples known to me as my little cousins -Jordan, Buddha, and Tobi- are now a significant part of my life. No matter what may come in the future, I’ve invested so much time and energy with these three little ones that they will always be just that to me, no matter what the age.
But also in watching the commercial I also got chance to see things from my elders view, my mom’s in particularly. Now I get why she’s always being such a pain in the butt -like the dad is in the car commercial- and why she’€™s always texting me what u doin’ or calling me to see if I made it to work on time. Now I understand why she leaves me such ‘unique’ voicemails when I ignore her call, especially when the reason behind her call is the reason I’€™m ignoring it in the first place. Funny thing is, the answer’s always been there right in front of my face in plain view, only it took me twenty years and a lame Subaru commercial to get it.. She’s not texting me to see how annoyed I can get, or reprimanding me just because she‘s mad. It’€™s because she only wants the best for me, because she loves me. It’€™s because I’m her baby.

Always have, always will be.
Love ya too mom.

I will miss you every day for the rest of my life. You were always there for me. What will I do now?

Your loving daughter,
Barb

i am so deeply upset at the way you treated me last week.  i think that i have always been a good daughter to you, but you, you really disappointed me this time.  how could you go to the store and not ask me what i wanted?  i just don’t understand.  usually you ask.  are you mad at me because i missed a week of church.  that is no reason to punish me mom.  you shouldn’t treat me like that.  its not fair.  you got my sister something and you just skipped right over me like i don’t matter.  my feelings are hurt and i don’t know if i will be able to get over this one.

Love your angry daughter

Today you made me feel special. We usually don’t see eye to eye, but today you were there for me when I needed you the most. You comforted me, you held me and you told me everything would be okay. I know that we will be able to build on today for the rest of our lives. No matter what happens from this point on, I know that you will always have my back.

Love you daughter,

I know that you won’t get to see this, but I have to tell you… One day I hope that you realize just how bad of a person you really are. You take from your own children and you give nothing in return. I remember when you told me that I was like the devil. What kind of person says that to their kid for no reason.

I know that I am a better mother than you. I tell my children that they are beautiful, that I love them everyday and just how beautiful they are. I will always have a close relationship with my girls.

All and all, I just want to say thank you for showing me how not to parent, because I know exactly what to do to make my children feel loved.

Your loving daughter,

Sharon B.

i know you don’t want to talk to me cause you are upset the way things went when i moved out but we were fighting so much i needed to get away with that i hate the fact that i cant just pick up the phone and give you a call cause we use to best friends not just mother and daughter now you can barley look at me i miss the way we use to do everything together and it breaks my hear to see you upset and know i cant do anything to help you cause it was my fault i love you so much please forgive me

Your loving daughter

Thanks for always being there for me. You were my rock and my foundation. Without you I would be who I an today. It’s because of beautiful women like you, who taught a beautiful child like me to grow up into a beautiful woman.

Thanks for all that you’ve done in my life.

Love your daughter

I wish you would stop snooping through my things. If I wanted you to know what was written in my diary, I would tell you. Not write it in my diary. My life is my life. Mind your own damn business.

Love your angry daughter

I miss you. I know we don’t talk as much as we should and that is my fault, but for some reason, I can’t bring myself to give you a call. I’m still your daughter and there is nothing that I want more than to hear your voice. When I was young, I did stupid things and you were no better, but none of that matters now. I wish you would just pick up the phone or give me a call.

Love your daughter